how to stop smoking when you are hypersensitive?
Hello and welcome to this post. Today I would like to talk about hypersensitivity in smokers, or rather, why I believe that hypersensitive people are more easily attracted to cigarettes. Unfortunately, the medical world never addresses emotions in the treatment of nicotine addiction, even though this is an essential point, even in people who are not hypersensitive. On the other hand, and very logically, when nicotine addiction is analysed properly, we understand that hypersensitive people find it harder to stop smoking.
What is hypersensitivity?
Hypersensitivity is a particular character trait. Many of us (I am one too) take this trait as a handicap. Indeed, it can be when the emotional differences are antagonistic. Strong emotions are very tiring, they drain the energy of the individual who will feel all the more negative emotions against him. In short, a vicious circle is established, from which it can sometimes be difficult to escape.
In addition to the handicap, a hypersensitive person can feel embarrassing effects. Yes, because one of the traits of a hypersensitive person is the absence of venal interest in a relationship, whatever it may be. And it is precisely the malicious spirits who often target people who seem “gullible” in their eyes. Indeed, a hypersensitive person is coded to think that everyone is kind and benevolent, or at least intends to be.
The hypersensitive person, through experience, learns to be wary of deceptions and scams of all kinds.
Beyond these disadvantages, a hypersensitive person who is well controlled has a good sense of intuition. The hypersensitive person also has a sense of detail, things that sometimes seem insignificant to the average person have a meaning for others who know how to observe them.
The qualities are generally listening, empathy, generosity and creativity.
I could study this further, but it is not my job. Summarising hypersensitivity seems impossible to me as the subject is so vast and varied. I would say that there are as many variables as there are people affected.
Smoking and hypersensitive people
Let’s get to the point! There are many hypersensitive people who have not fallen into nicotine addiction, and fortunately! We will review the reasons why others have been, or are, victims of Big Tobacco.
icotine is a “NARCOTIC”.
Definition of narcotic: Numbens the senses. On the Larousse web page: “Said of a substance that causes drowsiness, muscular relaxation and a decrease, or abolition of sensitivity.”
Who had this definition in mind? Isn’t it suitable for people who want to hide their emotions or their hypersensitivity?
Of course it is, in the bull’s eye! But not only that… Nicotine is a complex molecule that is both an exciting and anxiolytic. Smoking therefore allows you to numb the part of your sensitivity that you find difficult to manage, to shake you up if you need it to be “like the others” or to look “like” society would like to see you, while delivering its anxiolytic effects… It could be an interesting remedy if it wasn’t deadly… Sorry, I’m rushing you a bit!
So let’s move on to the next part:
The veil of smoke…
This is something I often stress with trainees. There are sometimes people who do not wish to see everything about themselves, or not to show everything… The refuge behind a veil of smoke is practical in certain circumstances, especially during serious incidents in life, whatever they may be… It allows us to conceal unpleasant feelings or events when it is not yet time to deal with them.
There always comes a time when the curtain has to be pulled back. Victor Hugo said: “Nothing stops an idea whose time has come”. Our brain wakes up the sensitive areas one by one so that we can take care of them, and consequently leave room for other preoccupations necessary to our life.
It is not necessary to pull back the curtain to stop smoking. In my experience, just knowing that there is something behind the curtain helps to unblock the process. The brain will make its own way and start the work when the time comes.
In my book I explain the process of major life decisions according to Maslow’s pyramid:
Let’s take care of what is vital first! The base of the pyramid is made up of physiological needs such as “to breathe” -> Quitting smoking starts at the base of the pyramid.
The second level of the pyramid is security -> life, shelter, heat
The third, belonging -> Love, friendship, family, feeling
The fourth: The need for esteem, self-confidence, recognition.
All of these facilitate personal fulfilment
Integration into a group
We were young, we needed an identity, many of us joined the smoking group. In the next point I will talk about the “cool attitude” conveyed by loobies.
Since the dawn of time, hominids have needed the “group”, if only for their survival. Our primary brain has evolved little in the last 800,000 years. Human beings were never designed to hunt alone (before firearms). Even so, he would not have had enough time to gather AND hunt AND cook AND take care of everyday life.
As I said, our brains are still there, because we have needed the “group” since the beginning of time. Our modern civilisation has only offered us the ability to live alone for the last 70 years, and even then, women’s financial and marital independence does not go back that far…
It is therefore naturally and unconsciously that we turn to others and that we use integration rites. Under the “false” messages distilled by the lobbies, we have gone towards “Freedom”, “cool attitude”, “virility”, “distinction”…
That first sentence: – “You want one”? “Come on, get a job”…
The marketing message of the tobacco lobbies
It is already not easy to escape the false beliefs distilled by the cigarette lobbies for people who are not hypersensitive. After reading the previous points, I imagine that you no longer doubt the trap that closed on you after the first cigarette.
Before 1960, in the United States, the cigar manufacturers communicated on the “health” aspect! Yes, just that (they are capable of anything but the best). After having been rejected by the government, following the denunciation of the reader digest which had to have a journalist of the same tenacity as Elise Lucet, the tobacco industry started to communicate on the cool attitude and on the primary needs, by carrying out psychological studies on their prospects.
They have always been at the forefront of marketing.
How to stop smoking when you are hypersensitive?
Many unfortunately stop in pain, not understanding what is happening to them. I hope that the root causes mentioned above will help you to find the way.
The first thing to do is to accept, to assume your hypersensitivity, and then day after day to make it a strength, an asset! Use it as a lever! If you are looking for a guide, I have built the whole method of notobacco.co taking into account the emotions! By the way, the programme is cheerful! As we all know, it’s not the deadly aspects that help smokers to quit.
How does it work? It is a methodologically designed programme to accompany readers or trainees day by day. In a precise order we will address the four pillars of nicotine addiction. Each pillar is itself headed by the emotions. We will work on the surface of these emotions, just enough to take them into account, but not too much either so as not to awaken any painful disorders. For some of you, it will be necessary to get rid of the cigarette first before going further… Everything in its own time!
The complete method for quitting smoking is a real coaching, designed to be in interaction with other smokers if you need it, but also with your coach. Personally, I needed to solve my problem alone, in my corner. In this case the book will be your guide. Others prefer a well-framed accompaniment, the courses are at your disposal! I have also designed a “hybrid” offer based on requests.
To my knowledge, this is the only method of stopping smoking that takes into account emotions and conditioning.